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Vampira & Her Vampire Hunter

As you guys know, I’m finally ready to start dating, and while I had a great series of dates with TR over the summer, it ended up that we weren’t meant to evolve into a grand romance, despite my hoping that life could imitate a romcom.  I took a couple of months off from online dating, mostly because the new job and the schedule that comes with it was something to get used to. Also because the “matches” in my inbox weren’t all that appealing.

Two weeks ago I decided to join eHarmony.  I’d joined years ago, and didn’t have much luck, but several of my friends had met their special someone on the site, and I figured I’d give it a shot.  It’s a much slower process than Match.com, but I think it’s worth it because it allows you to get beneath the surface with the potential matches.  Long story short, I was contacted by someone who really caught my eye.

Let’s call him Fireman, since that’s what he does.  He is 43 (my same age), good looking, smart, and fun.  He lives about an hour and a half away from me, but that didn’t turn me off, because I really value my independence, and the distance is a built in way for me to maintain it.  He has kids – a son who’s a senior in high school and a daughter who’s in 8th grade.  Dating someone with kids wouldn’t be my first choice, since I don’t want kids of my own, but these are great ages, especially since I get along so well with teens.  Plus, it will be a LONG time before I ever meet anyone’s kids; I feel like it should be a fairly serious relationship before that happens.

Anyway, Fireman and I have a lot in common: we’re both sports fans (although he roots for the wrong teams, LOL), love to read, like to cook, are into fitness and staying healthy, and we actually attended the same college at the same time (although since the school has over 30,000 students, it makes sense that we never ran into each other). I  was drawn to the way he described himself, how he views life, and what he’s looking for in a relationship.  I love that he’s intelligent, has a real zeal for life (as evidenced by his photos of his participation in the Spartan race and sky diving), and his smile is fantastic.  So when he sent me the first 5 questions last week, I answered him quickly.

We moved through eHarmony’s communication steps throughout the day on Tuesday, getting to know each other a bit better with each new step.  Our answers clicked for each other, because before long we were at the eHmail stage, where you can email each other freely, without the prescribed questions.  I sent him my phone number so we could text, and looked forward to hearing from him.  He texted me Tuesday night, but somehow I didn’t hear it come in, so Wednesday was spent texting each other back and forth.

One of the things I really appreciate about Fireman is that he communicates so well. Not just the content of his messages, or the fact that he spells everything correctly (although those are HUGE things for me), but especially the fact that he’s really attentive.  He sent me good morning texts each day, which really made me smile.  And when I sent him a text, he answered pretty quickly.  (One of the things that bothered me about TR was that he would text me a question about making plans, and I’d respond within minutes, then wait for an hour for his response.  It was weird, and helped me realize that I like someone who checks in and sends texts several times a day).  Fireman is great about that, and I love the attention.  It shows he is interested, and I love that feeling that I’ve caught his eye.

Fast forward to him asking when we could meet up on a date.  I’d originally had a Halloween party to go to with the BFF on Saturday, so Fireman and I made plans for Sunday.  I was really excited to wear my Vampira costume to the party, especially because I bought it right off the rack. Not only that, but it was a size MEDIUM!! So when the  BFF texted and said she didn’t think the party was a go, I was really disappointed.  It just so happened that Fireman was texting me at the same time, and I mentioned this to him.  He immediately said, “well then we should find a Halloween party so we can both dress up and wear costumes!”

Can I just say that I love that he 1) didn’t want me to feel disappointed about not getting to wear the Halloween costume so he was coming up with an alternate plan, 2) that he was willing to pull together a last minute  costume so that we could both dress up, and 3) that he wanted to see me sooner rather than later.  He found a Halloween Hornblower cruise around SF Bay sponsored by a local oldies station, and bought our tickets.  I was impressed and excited.

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No matter how it ended up, I knew that this first date would go down in the history books for me.  Meeting for the first time in person while all dressed up for Halloween?  Crazy!  He called it “unorthodox,” which I loved.  I’m also really glad I had several pictures of myself looking normal on my eHarmony profile, so that he knew exactly what I looked like before he saw me as Vampira.  LOL.

I’ve never been so excited about getting ready for a Halloween party in my life.  This came with the added excitement of a first date, making it all the more special.  After a few attempts at the gothic makeup I was going for, and trying to figure out how to glue on the false lashes without gluing my eyelids shut, I was really happy with the result:

serious vampira You can’t see it in the pics, but I have on a dark burgandy and black eyeshadow, which went well with the rest of the outfit.  I used black eyeshadow to contour my  cheeks and add a bit of a dead look.  The false lashes looked great, even though they were a pain to put on.  I wore Mac’s Darkside lipstick, along with a Bare Minerals Moxie in Strong as the blood dripping out of the corners of my mouth.  When my nieces and sister saw me, they said I looked spooky and haunting.

vampira smile Not smiling in the previous pic as just a way to make Vampira seem more scary, but you guys know I can’t go long without smiling, so I had to capture this other side of Vampira, too.

To complete the look, I wore my blood-red fake Docs, a great necklace from Bauble Bar, and fishnet stockings:

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The shoes were the perfect choice to give the outfit a bit of an unexpected style that’s all my own, and were also practical, because I knew we’d be walking a lot in SF to get to the pier and board the cruise ship.  I was really pleased with the entire effect of the costume, and couldn’t wait to see what Fireman thought of it.

He knew that I was going to be Vampira, and planned his costume around mine, but kept it a secret.  He did ask that brought whatever lipstick I was wearing along, so he could use some.  I was totally intrigued.  When we met up, I was so happy to see that he’d transformed into a Vampire Hunter, complete with fake sword, huge silver cross, and black trench.  What a clever choice of outfit!!  He looked good!  And I could tell that he was really happy with the way I looked in my costume.  The way he looked at me told me that he appreciated the way the costume accentuated my curves.  So when he asked me to give him two kisses, one on the cheek and one on his neck, I gladly obliged.  He’s a smart man to figure out a way to get two smooches from me within minutes of our meeting.  LOL.  It definitely broke the ice, but remained innocent, at the same time.

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The cruise ship was lit up and looking gorgeous. It was huge, and I couldn’t believe the number of people who had bought tickets for this event. I would say there were 500 or more people on the boat with us.  As we were waiting to board, fireworks were going off on the bay and the Giants scored 4 runs in their World Series game.  If that’s not an indication of a great night ahead, I don’t know what is.  Normally I’d be very concerned about a 3-hour plus first date, but with Fireman, I knew the evening would fly by because we have a lot to talk about and already had an ease between us after our texts and phone calls.

Another thing I really liked about Fireman was his willingness to take photos. I’ve been with lots of guys who are just so weird when it comes to that.  I love that he is outgoing, friendly, and very confident.  We’re a great match in so many ways.  I think it’s clear in this photo:

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The evening was amazing.  We talked easily, had a great time getting to know each other, and saw some hilarious and horrific costumes.  We danced throughout the night, and our rhythm on the dance floor was unmistakable.  We were so insync, moving together as if we’d been doing it for years, not minutes.  The sparks flew for sure, and the chemistry was obvious.  I liked the way he took my hand and led me through the crowd, protective yet respectful.   It’s hard to describe it, but I knew that I looked good, and the way that he looked at me confirmed it.  He was clearly attracted to me, and wasn’t afraid of glancing admiringly every so often. And yes, for those who are curious, we did share quite a few passionate kisses, which can only be described as thrill-inducing.

When the night ended and he drove me back to my car, we listened to an old Pearl Jam record. One of the cool things about dating someone my same age is that we share so many pop culture memories in common, including grunge music. As we each made our ways home, he was sure to ask me to text him when I got home so he knew I was safe.  And he texted me the next morning (yesterday) telling me that he’d had a great time .  I’m really hopeful that we’ll go out on more dates, but even if we don’t, I can honestly say this was the most unique, fun, and excited first date I’ve ever been on.  Vampira and her Vampire Hunter will be one of my favorite Halloween memories from here on out.

bilbl_mainGeez, it feels like forever since I’ve written a blog entry, right?  I’m so sorry.  I think about this blog all the time, but lately I just don’t have enough hours in the day to get in the right mind space to write a good post.  I’ve missed it so much, though, and really want to make the blog a priority again. Since this is a “catch-up” post, it’s going to be long, so sit back, grab a drink, and enjoy…

Please don’t take my lack of writing as a sign that I’ve “fallen off the wagon,” because that couldn’t be further from the truth.  I’ve been maintaining my weight since my last weigh in post, probably because I haven’t been able to dedicate as much time as I should be to working out.  Most days I’ll fit some cardio in, but lately I’ve been really hit and miss with the toning workouts.  My food has been great, though, which is why the scale is holding steady at 171.

I really, REALLY want to see the 160s soon, but to do that, I know that I need to kick my workouts into high gear, drink plenty of water, and make sure my protein intake is high.  I’m 21 pounds from my ultimate goal weight, and I would really like to make more progress towards that goal before the end of the year. So for the rest of this month, and actually, for the rest of the year, I’m going to make sure I’m on point with my food and my workouts.  Except of course on the holidays – Thanksgiving, Christmas Eve, & Christmas Day – I’m going to allow for indulgences, although I’ll probably get a workout in on all of those days to help compensate.  Which is not to say I’m not going to enjoy a glass or two of wine with my friends or family or have a few beers on SundayFunday while watching the 49ers – I want to enjoy life, but I also want to make sure I’m getting in a good calorie burn on those days to keep it all in balance.

Speaking of balance, in order to make sure I’m not totally abandoning this blog or all of my blogging buddies, I’m going to get back in the habit of setting aside an hour a day towards “blogging.”  If I have something to write, I’ll make sure to post, but if not, I want to visit all of the blogs I love to read but have been neglecting lately.  Blogging is still a passion of mine, and what I attribute much of my weight loss success to.  It’s been an amazing vehicle for my emotions, struggles, ideas, and inspirations.  And reading blogs is just as important as writing my own.  So it’s time to get back into it, full force, no matter how busy I am.

I’ve really been enjoying my new job, even though I am getting used to the longer hours.  The thing is, on a daily basis, I’m working later than I did when I was teaching, but the fantastic part is, once I’m home, I leave work at work. No hours spent grading essays on the weekends. Or more accurately, no hours guiltily agonizing over the essays that I should be grading, but aren’t.  I do miss the interaction with my students and the colleagues at the high school where I’d been working for the past 10 years, but this new phase of my career is really nice.  It’s a welcome break from all the stress that comes with being a teacher, especially an English teacher.  Plus, I adore the new teachers that I’m working with, and I think I’m really making a difference in their professional lives, which in turn has an effect on the hundreds of students that they’re teaching.  All in all, I’m really glad that I made the move.

In terms of life, things are good.  I’ve been seeing friends and family here and there, enjoying football and baseball season, and I checked two major items off my #FriskyFall Bucket List:

Going Apple Picking: I was able to tag along with my niece’s Girl Scout Troop (my sister is their troop leader).  We headed to fun little apple orchard in Watsonville, which coincidentally is owned by a family who’s grandkids attend my niece’s elementary school.  I love that we supported a local family!  It was a really fun day, and the apples we got were delicious.

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Heading to a Half Moon Bay Pumpkin Patch: My sister and I headed up to Half Moon Bay a few weekends ago to get our pumpkins for all of our Halloween decorations.  Sure, the local grocery stores have pumpkins for sale, but nothing like the variety available at  the pumpkin patches in HMB.  Plus, it’s a nice drive, and we took advantage of the sunny day and drove the Beetle with the top down.  Wheelbarrow in hand, we explored the entire pumpkin patch for just the right pumpkins, and boy did we!

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There have been a couple of milestones that I’ve enjoyed while I’ve taken some time off this blog.

The first was going to my 25th high school reunion.  What a difference 5 years made!  I remember how I felt before my 20th reunion: very embarrassed about the way I was looking, how much weight I’d gained, the fact that I was single, and just sort of nervous about seeing all these girls I went to school with after so long.  I ended up having a good time, but when I saw the photos we took that night, I wasn’t happy with the person I saw.  Fast forward to this year – I couldn’t wait for the reunion because I felt so confident in everything I’d been doing. Not just my weight loss, but my overall outlook in life.  I was still single, but it wasn’t as much of an issue because I knew that there are lots of possibilities in that area.

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Next up, on the NSV list is the purchase of new, size 10 jeans!! I’d been wearing my size 12s all spring and summer, and while I knew they were a bit loose, I didn’t realize how much until one of my colleagues saw me at the SAT and told me how baggy they were on me.  The next Monday I was at the mall, and was so proud that I found several pair that not only fit, but looked good.

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As you can see, the boot legs are still too long on me, even though they’re “shorts;”  I have to take them to the tailor to have them hemmed. This is a new first for me.  I never remember owning and wearing size 10s –  ever!  I’m really proud of myself, and this is a great NSV because even though my weight loss has stayed the same, I’m still loosing inches, which is so nice.

One last NSV is all about Halloween. My Halloween costume, specifically.  It’s been so long since I’ve been able to wear any costume I want, right off the shelf of a costume shop.  In the past, I’ve had to select from the slim pickings of the plus size section or the super-expensive plus size costumes available online.  Not this year!  I knew I’d have my choice of whatever costume I wanted.  Such an amazing feeling.  So when I went to a local vintage clothing store to see what they had to offer, I wasn’t sure exactly what I wanted.  I knew it would either be a 50’s-esque retro dress or something dark and gothic.

spikedI went with the latter because I’d purchased this cool “buried bauble” from Bauble Bar, and knew it would be great for Halloween.

So when I found this costume, and then realized it was on sale for 50% off, I knew I was going to transform into Vampira for Halloween (more on this in another post).

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So that’s what’s been going on in my life.  I’m really going to make more of an effort to write more posts, because I really still enjoy it.  In fact, I have some fun to share with you in my next post, so I’d better end this one so I can start that one.

bilbl_super These past couple of weeks my workouts have been a bit hit and miss.  Last week I got in cardio workouts 5 days, but the toning kind of fell off as the week progressed.  This week I’m going to focus on getting all my workouts in – toning and cardio – no matter how busy or tired I get.  I just feel better about every aspect of my life when I’m completing both parts of my workouts. Here’s this week’s plan:

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Monday: PM: Walk Sofi
Tuesday: AM: C25K, W5D1 + TIU: Bikini Abs
Wednesday: PM: elliptical + TIU: Love Your Arms & Abs (x3)
Thursday: PM: TIU: Insane Cardio + TIU: Bikini Booty
Friday: PM: C25K, W5D2 + TIU: Bikini Arms (Beach Babe 2 DVD) + TIU: Shoulders (x2)
Saturday & Sunday: bike ride/ walk Sofi + C25K, W5D3 (Sunday Runday)

+ walk with Sofi every day

AM = early morning workout before work
PM = afternoon/evening workout after work

I’m looking forward to this week’s workouts!

Keep me accountable!! I post my daily workouts on Instagram, so follow me (or look at the sidebar of this blog) to see what I’m doing!

Autumn has (almost officially) arrived! Which means that life is back to normal – school’s in, my schedule is busy, and obligations abound. But I won’t use those as excuses to slack on my goals. The great thing about fall is that the weather is cooler, which means that those wonderful fall fashions will keep me motivated. Plus, crisp temperatures mean that it’s never “too hot” to workout. I’m going to relish my nightly cup of steaming hot tea as another way to keep my water intake up. I look forward to all those hearty, satisfying and wls-friendly soups, stews, and crockpot meals that I’ll create for myself. This year, the changing season will mark new milestones that I haven’t seen in 5, 7, 10+ years! Bring on fall 2014 – it’s time to reach new heights! Wednesday weigh-ins will keep me accountable through the work week, and will give me a positive outlook for the weekend. Throughout the fall, I’ll be giving Wednesday weight loss updates called WonderFALL Weigh-Ins.

Week 68 was busy, hectic and long.  So much so that I didn’t even have time to write a weight loss update.  I actually didn’t even have a chance to weigh in at all until this morning.  So, here’s a midweek weigh-in update. Even though the week was super busy, I did a good fairly job with my meal planning, eating, and exercising.

So, how’s the scale looking?

When I weighed in this morning, I was 171.0, which is a loss of 1.2 pounds this week, and a loss of 106 lbs since surgery! I’ve lost a total of 144 pounds from my highest weight!! I have 21 pounds to go to my ultimate goal weight of 150 pounds. I’m really happy to see this loss, especially because I haven’t really been putting as much concentration on weight loss this week.  Don’t get me wrong, I’ve made great meals, gotten in some solid workouts, and continued to eat within my meal plan.  The nice thing about this point in my journey is that I don’t have to think about all of these things as much as I used to.  They’ve become such a habit, such a way of life, that I can go on “auto-pilot” during a crazy week and still see a good result.  That makes me feel awesome.

This week shouldn’t be quite as busy so I’ll have more time to concentrate on working out and meal planning.  I’m not going to go into too many details here, because I’ll write a weekly workout plan post in a few minutes.

I’m so close to reaching the next weight category – the 160s!!  I can’t wait to hit that section, because I haven’t been at that weight since I was 18 years old.  It’s so cool that now at 43, I’ll be even fitter than I was when I was 18. Back then, I wasn’t wearing size small and medium tops or size 10/12 pants, and I think the difference is that I’ve really changed my entire body with the cardio and toning workouts I’ve been doing.  It’s amazing to see such a transformation in my body, and each time I hit a new NSV with clothes, it’s so surreal to me.

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Until Wednesday, my friends. I hope the scale treats you well, and that you have a wonderful week!

Autumn has (almost officially) arrived! Which means that life is back to normal – school’s in, my schedule is busy, and obligations abound. But I won’t use those as excuses to slack on my goals. The great thing about fall is that the weather is cooler, which means that those wonderful fall fashions will keep me motivated. Plus, crisp temperatures mean that it’s never “too hot” to workout. I’m going to relish my nightly cup of steaming hot tea as another way to keep my water intake up. I look forward to all those hearty, satisfying and wls-friendly soups, stews, and crockpot meals that I’ll create for myself. This year, the changing season will mark new milestones that I haven’t seen in 5, 7, 10+ years! Bring on fall 2014 – it’s time to reach new heights! Wednesday weigh-ins will keep me accountable through the work week, and will give me a positive outlook for the weekend. Throughout the fall, I’ll be giving Wednesday weight loss updates called WonderFALL Weigh-Ins.

Week 67 was a pretty good one. I made some great meals, got in a few strong workouts, and even took a long walk when I wasn’t feeling that great over the weekend.

So, how’s the scale looking?

When I weighed in this morning, I was 172.2, which is a maintain this week, and a loss of 104.8 lbs since surgery! I’ve lost a total of 142.8 pounds from my highest weight!! I have 22.2 pounds to go to my ultimate goal weight of 150 pounds. I can’t lie, I’m disappointed that I didn’t see a loss on the scale this week, because I’ve been putting in work and eating right.  But when I look at the week, I did skip two weekday workouts and I wasn’t feeling great this weekend, so I didn’t do as much as I normally would have.  I ate a lot more carbs and less protein than I should’ve late last week (in the form of a chicken pesto pizza that lasted for 3 meals). I’m not too upset about this maintain, because I know it’s only temporary.  It also shows me that at this point in my journey, I need to push harder in order to see a loss on the scale.

So far this week (the past two days), I’ve been getting in strong workouts, following the Tone It Up Frisky Fall Challenge.  This morning my legs are really feeling the squats, lunges, and other moves that I’ve been doing.  I love pushing myself with the toning workouts.  I’ve also resumed C25K, and I was pleasantly surprised that I felt strong in my runs even though I’d taken so much time off from running training.  My main workout goal this week is to make sure I get in all my weekday workouts, not allowing myself to skip any because I’m tried, which usually happens around Thursday or Friday.

In terms of food, things are going well. As I mentioned above, toward the end of last week and into the weekend I wasn’t making the best food choices.  I kept my calories under my daily goal, but I wasn’t eating enough protein and veggies.  I know this is a main reason the scale didn’t move this week.  I know better.  I know that in order to lose weight, I need to eat well, not just keep the calories within my limits.  It’s much more important to keep WHAT I’m eating in check.  Eating out several meals in one week doesn’t lead to weight loss.  It would’ve been better for me to eat that chicken pesto pizza for just the one meal and leave the rest.  I need to release myself from the idea of “wasting food,” and continuing to eat a heavy carb and fat with little protein meal several times just so that I don’t feel wasteful.  Indulging for one meal is one fine, but eating that same meal three times because I have leftovers isn’t good for my weight loss goals. From now on if I go out and indulge in a meal that doesn’t really fit in with my plan, I’m going to enjoy that one meal and leave the leftovers at the restaurant because it’s just not worth the damage it does. So far this week, I’ve done a good job with balancing my protein, veggies, and carbs.

If anything, this maintain is going to spur me to push myself harder this week.  I don’t want to see another maintain on the scale next week, and I’m determined to make sure that I see a new loss.  I’m so close to a new weight “decade,” and I’ve love to move into the 160s next week which is completely doable – I’d only need a loss of 2.4 lbs.  I’m going to keep that number in mind and use it to motivate myself in my workout and in my food choices.  Here’s to moving forward!

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Until next Wednesday, my friends. I hope the scale treats you well, and that you have a wonderful week!

#FriskyFall is HERE!

As I mentioned yesterday, the Frisky Fall Challenge from the Tone It Up girls begins today! Eight weeks until Halloween.  Eight weeks of workouts to get me closer to my weight loss goals.  Eight weeks of motivation and inspiration.

To join in on all the fun, I made these Frisky Fall Goals:

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  • I’m determined to get a workout in every single weekday, no matter how tired I am or long the day is.
  • On the weekends, I plan to have “active rest days” full of bike rides, walks with Sofi, and early on a swim or two if the weather allows.  I also want to continue to be really social with friends and family, which means girls’ nights, lunches, 49er games, and dinners.  I’m also hoping for a few dates.
  • I’ve never been apple picking before, and there’s a great nearby farm that I can’t wait to go to with my nieces (they’ve been apple picking several times with the Girl Scouts, so they’re experts).
  • Half Moon Bay has lots of pumpkin patches, and it’s right by the beach, so I’m going to go in late September/early October to beat all the Halloween crowds.
  • I always eat healthy, but when the weather cools down, the tendency can be to eat foods that are higher in calories. I can’t wait to make low calorie, healthy crockpot meals, and start incorporating overnight oats into my morning breakfasts.
  • KandisTIU created another great chart, which I’m going to use to track my miles for #150byHalloween (you can go to her FB page to get the chart for yourself):
  • -2 I wasn’t great about posting my progress towards my miles for the Back To School Challenge on the blog, but I did check in daily on IG, and I’ve decided that that’s the best method for me to track my miles for this challenge. I will post the previous week’s miles on my Sunday Workout Schedule posts, too.
  • If you’d like to follow my progress, make sure to watch for my posts on Instagram, or on the sidebar of this blog.

What are you goals this fall?

bilbl_superI’m really excited about the workout week ahead for two reasons.  First and foremost, tomorrow the Tone It Up girls are beginning their #FriskyFall challenge.  Eight weeks of motivation and inspiration!  I’m also excited that this week I’m going to resume my 5K training so that I’m prepared to run the entire 5K for the Turkey Trot on Thanksgiving Day.   Here’s this week’s plan:

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Monday: PM: C25K, W4D1 + TIU Back to School Workout (x3)
Tuesday: PM: TIU Stair Routine + TIU: Sunkissed Abs + New Frisky Fall Routine (coming Tuesday)
Wednesday: PM: C25K, W4D2 + TIU: Holiday Arms (x3)
Thursday: AM: elliptical  + TIU: Love Your Legs (x3) + Inner&Outer Thighs
Friday: PM: C25K, W4D3 + TIU: Frisky Fall Full Body Routine (x4)
Saturday & Sunday: Body Combat (Saturday)/bike ride/ swim/walk Sofi

+ walk with Sofi every day

AM = early morning workout before work
PM = afternoon/evening workout after work

I’ve been doing pretty well with my PM workouts, and with the added excitement of the #FriskyFall  challenge, I’m really motivated to make sure I get each one in.

Keep me accountable!! I post my daily workouts on Instagram, so follow me (or look at the sidebar of this blog) to see what I’m doing!

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