Throughout the month of December, I’ll be participating in #reverb13: Reverb is a way to reflect on the past year and project into the next year with a prompt a day for 31 days. December is the perfect time to reflect on 2013 and start to create intentions for 2014.
Day 30: Relationships
Relationships | Did you find a new best friend? Delve deeper into a relationship? Break up? Get back together? Tell us about who you added – or subtracted – from your life. Why?
My friendships are so important to me, and I try to nurture them as much as possible. Now that we’re in our 40s and busy with jobs, families, and other obligations, getting together is a lot more challenging. Still, I try to make sure I get together with each of my friends (and sometimes a few of them at once) for coffee or something at least once a month. Most of my friends are girls I’ve known since high school, and it’s really fantastic to know people that long. These are tried-and-true friends. Ride or die chicks. Girls who have seen me through everything, and me them. We’ll always be in each other’s lives. One major goal I have in 2014, which I started at the end of 2013 is to get together with them much more often. To do things together, not just coffee and convo, but getting out and about and doing fun things, too.
One friendship that has blossomed in 2013 is with Tinkerbell. She and I really started to hang out at the very beginning of January 2013, and our friendship has grown so much over the course of this year. We have so much in common, including both getting the VSG. It’s fantastic having someone in real life to discuss all the issues that come up with having had weight loss surgery. But beyond that, we have similar values, live in the same neighborhood (within 5 minutes driving), and like to do the same things. Tinkerbell is incredible supportive, so generous, and absolutely inspiring. Whenever I see her post about her long runs on MyFitnessPal, I get motivated to do my walk/run intervals. We have a great time shopping, getting our hair blown out, and delving into more serious topics, too. I’m so grateful that we’ve become so close, and consider her one of my best friends.
A few of my most cherished friends are women who have moved far from me, but the distance doesn’t inhibit our friendship because of this great age of technology. It’s not quite the same as being in the same room, but being able to check in on Facebook share our daily smiles through photos and statuses helps us stay connected. Plus, with things like Facetime and texting, we can keep up with each other as if we did live in the same city.
And then there are the blogging buddies, pals on MFP, and WLS peeps on YouTube and FB who have offered me so much support, encouragement, and happiness that they are definitely people I count among my friends, even though we’ve never met. I am so thankful to have them in my lives.
In terms of romantic relationships, I recently signed up for Match.com, and while I find the entire process terribly slow, it has given me a bit of a boost to know that some of these men find me attractive enough to email, wink at, or contact. I haven’t dated in years, and now that I’ve put myself back out there, I’m really hoping that 2014 brings me some fun dates (or maybe something even more serious) in the love department.