A bit of an interesting situation has cropped up, and I’d love to get your opinions about what you think I should do or what you’d do in my situation.
A friend of mine is house sitting in Hawaii (Oahu’s North Shore) and I’d made tentative plans to visit her there during my Spring Break (April 4-10). Because she’d be working during the day, I knew I’d be spending that time alone, and I was fine with that. I saw days stretched out before me of sunbathing, reading, running along the ocean, exploring the city, shopping, snorkeling, and maybe even trying to surf. And then in the late afternoons and at night, we’d spend the time together going out to restaurants/bars, cooking at home, and just catching up. It was the perfect plan because I’d have time to myself to do what I wanted, but then we’d also have time together to hang out.
Yesterday when I was checking flights and confirming that it was still a good time for me to visit, she told me that she and her boyfriend are actually planning to go on a vacation that same week and she won’t be there. (He’s a doctor in the armed forces and is getting deployed shortly afterward). I was completely disappointed when she told me. I was really looking forward to the trip, especially because I would be able to stay at a place like this:
But back to the dilemma. My friend said I can still stay at the house she’s house sitting at, but since she’s not going to be there at all, I’m not sure if I want to go on vacation like that by myself. I know I’d be fine with occupying my time during the day – I was planning to do that anyway – but it’s the nighttime by myself that I’m unsure of. I don’t want to feel lonely while I’m on vacation. I know Hawaiians are friendly people, and I think it’s a safe place, and as outgoing as I am, do I really want to go out and about by myself at night the entire time?
I’m also not sure if I want to spend the money to fly to Hawaii ($600 or so right now), rent a car ($150?) and then pay for food/meals only to be by myself the entire time. Not to mention navigating around an unfamiliar city (although with all the tourists, this is probably one of the best places to be). I’ve budgeted for the trip, but that was when I was thinking I’d be spending at least the late afternoons and evenings with my friend. Do I really want to shell out this much money to be by myself? Oh, and I know some of you are going to think this is nuts, and maybe it is, but I also just found out yesterday that there’s a cat at the house that I’d have to care for. I’m not worried about scooping litter or leaving food out, but I am actually really afraid/freaked out by cats. They unnerve me. I know that sounds ridiculous to some of you, but then I’d just remind you that people are scared of spiders, and those are a lot smaller than cats. I would definitely have to find out how “friendly” this cat is – my hope would be that it would be aloof and not want to be around a stranger at all. Another reason this trip might not be for me.
Then again, it would be really fun to be in such a gorgeous setting, getting a nice tan, and just relaxing. And truth be told, I’d be by myself a majority of the time if I stayed home. It is a great deal not having to spend any money on a hotel and have the option of cooking lots of my meals at home because I’d have the comfort of a house at my disposal. I’ve never gone on vacation completely alone like this before, so it might be a good adventure.
What do you think? Should I do it? I went on Pinterest and found several photos of Oahu’s North Shore, just to make the decision even tougher.