Now that I’m finally coming up for air after a week of celebrating, I wanted to make sure to capture just how special my birthday was this year. I’ve written before about how my parents always made my birthday like my own private holiday, and this year was no exception.
The birthday festivities started on Monday, with a dinner at my friend Tinkerbell’s house. She made really delicious food and gave me a “fun in the sun” gift bag filled with lots of goodies that I’m going to enjoy using all summer long.
Next up was a birthday dinner with my parents and sister on Wednesday night. We went to an Italian restaurant that we enjoy, and had great food. Afterward we went back to my parents’ house where I opened presents. They were all really generous, and bought me everything I’d wanted from my Amazon wishlist, including a new blender, a beautiful ring, a pretty turquoise and silver necklace, and car wash certificates, to name a few. I know just how lucky I am to have this family.
Thursday, my actual birthday, was one of the best days of recent memory. I woke up, enjoyed a quiet cup of coffee, perused social media and saw all of the fun birthday wishes, and took Sofi on a long walk. All leading up to spending the day with RDC3. That’s what I was most looking forward to because I knew we were going to have an amazing time, as we always do when he and I are together. No matter what we do, I always have the best time with him because he makes everything so special. And is there really anything better than spending time with someone you’re crazy about?
For so long, I wanted to share my life with someone, and now that I have this amazing man in my life, it makes all the years that I was alone worth it. He is definitely worth the wait, and I’m so grateful that fate stepped in and put him in my life. As independent as I am, I have to admit that I’m a person who enjoys being part of a couple. But not just with anyone – it takes a very special someone to spark this in me and RDC3 definitely has. I don’t want to gush, but the relationship we’re forging is really more than I could have ever dreamed of.
Our day started with him surprising me with a bag from Chanel. I wasn’t expecting any sort of present from him because he’d just taken me to the opera (that post will be coming soon) the week before, and I’d told him that that was more than enough of a birthday present. So when he presented me with a beautifully decorated gift bag from Chanel, which he’d gone up to SF to buy at their boutique so that they would wrap it with all the trimmings, I was floored. He bought me a beautiful bottle of Chanel’s Coco Mademoiselle, which has a light, fresh fragrance that is sure to become my new signature scent. Every time I wear it, I’ll definitely think of him and how thoughtful he is to go out of his way to buy this for me. Not just the expense of the present, which is significant, but the fact that he went all the way to SF to buy it at the boutique so that they’d wrap it up in such pretty packaging. He definitely knows how to make me feel special. The card that he wrote which accompanied the gift is something I’ll also treasure. RDC3 always claims that he’s not great with words, but the things he wrote in that card definitely made my heart smile.
After the gift, we were on our way to Half Moon Bay, at my request. There’s a beach right near El Grenada called Pillar Point that has to be my very favorite place on earth. It has huge boulders that reach all the way out to the middle of the ocean, and lots of fishermen and surfers go there. Not too many tourists, although it’s right by an RV park. I discovered it by accident about 20 years ago, and ever since, it’s held a really special place in my heart. Whenever I was having a bad day and just needed to clear my head, I’d drive there with my notebook and write about whatever was going on. I loved hearing the crash of the waves and seeing the inevitable fog roll in and realize how small my problems were in comparison to the immensity of the ocean. The ocean is such a source of comfort and power for me, and I love spending time at this place, just thinking about life. I hadn’t been since losing my weight, and I’d never taken someone special there before, so it meant a lot that we were going there together.
Climbing the rocks is always a bit daunting for me, but I found that it was quite a bit easier for me this time around than ever before. Just another example of how much my weight loss has positively impacted my life. RDC3 and I found the perfect spot, and we each took to our own rocks to take in the scene. I really liked that we were able to be there together, but each enjoy it in our own separate ways.
RDC3 is a photographer, and always captures quiet moments like this one without me knowing about it. I’d taken out my journal and immediately started writing, reflecting on all that has happened in the past seven weeks.
After a time, I asked RDC3 to join me on my rock so that we could sit there quietly and take everything in together. Sitting on the rock with him, sharing with him how special it was for me to have him there with me in that moment and in my life in general meant so much. He told me something incredibly touching (which I’m going to keep between the two of us), and again my heart swelled with happiness. I got a bit teary eyed thinking about how lucky I am to have this amazing person in my life.
Next up we were driving up Highway 1, on our way to SF to the Cliff House for dinner. I’d never been, although I’d passed by it many times while I lived in San Fran. RDC3’s father used to take him there to celebrate special occasions, so the restaurant had a lot of sentimental value for him, making it all the more meaningful that he wanted to bring me there for my birthday. RDC3 had requested a window table, which is the only way to go at this restaurant. The views are breathtaking!
We decided on a great bottle of red, which I completely loved, as you can tell.
This is a really expensive restaurant; definitely something for special occasions. The menu is limited, but the food is truly delicious. I ordered the lamb chops and RDC3 got the duck. We thoroughly enjoyed the conversation, the food, and the entire experience.
After dinner, I wanted to walk along Ocean Beach. It was so hauntingly beautiful that I just couldn’t resist going in. Whenever I’m by the ocean, I always have to at least dip my feet into the water, but this night I was feeling so happy, that I waded out a bit further, even though I had my jeans on and it was freezing outside. Oddly enough, the water was fairly warm (for an SF ocean), so I started getting a bit more daring. Even I didn’t expect a huge wave to crash up and hit my jeans all the way up to my thighs! RDC3 looked like he wasn’t quite sure what to do with this crazy girl who was completely soaked, yet laughing at it all. In that moment I was just so grateful and happy.
I can honestly say that this has been the best birthday I’ve had in the past 20 years, maybe ever. It has everything to do with the people in my life making me feel so loved and cherished. I am so blessed to have all of these people in my life, and I will never forget July 2, 2015. It was a day to remember forever.